Goals...Such a yucky little word! I have always hated this word..All the super organizers of the world LOVE to use this word! You have to set goals! When you reach your goal...What is your goal? What!!!???? You don't HAAAAAAVE goals????
From the time I was very little, at least as far as I can remember, which on some days is pretty far...I have never been able to figure out what was wrong with doing things a little different than the rest of the free world. Why??? Do we have to do it that way?? Beause you said so?? What a stupid reason...So what if that works for 10 million and 1 people what about the other 50 million people?? This was the logic I have always used...I am a firm believer that there is more than one way to skin a cat and just because it works for a bunch of people doesn't mean that it will work for everyone. (Hmmmm....perhaps this is the reason I have been blessed with 4 free thinking children????)
I have always been the left shoe in my family. I was blessed to be born into a family of doers! People who can do anything, who do everything, who do it way before it needs doing, people who never leave a task undone, people who GET things done, neat farms, neat yards, and even neater houses, ( people who do not accept clutter as a way to decorate your home), and on top of it all NICE....people who would always and did always do and do and do for their friends, neighbors and strangers in their communities....I on the other hand, could not understand why you wouldn't rather play in the rain than clean your room, or why waste a perfectly good day on chores, when we could be out riding, or why it had to be done ALL day Saturday instead of on some stupid week night, when we were home anyway!!! Let me clarify, that I am not talking about hard work here...(that is a whole nother soap box for me!) It wasn't the "doing" that I minded, it was the "thinking about doing, the planning about doing, the "yes we know exactly where we are going and doing". doing! Really??? Who ALWAYS knows what they are doing?? Who ALWAYS has a plan???
I have always been inspired by people, events and circumstances. I can pinpoint exactly many times in my life when I have had some type of an epiphany, where something has inspired me so much, that right then and there I made a choice and as a result changed somthing about the way I was doing things. This is something that I have always loved about myself without really understanding it, and as I grow older have come to believe is a gift. One more facet, to being who I am...I have had two such events occur recently , almost together and yet not at all together.
There is a lady whom I go to church with. I see her frequently and over the last quite a while, I have been so impressed, and so touched with her "everything" that I have determined to be more like her. She possesses many of the attributes that I would like to have. I had a recent interaction with this lady, and that was my lightbulb moment! That was my moment to say, Ah Hah! No more thinking about this, I am doing this! I have already begun to do some of the things I have been longing to do, that she has inspired me to do!
This week we had our monthly Relief Society meeting, which in our church is a night that all the women in the ward are invited to come together. We have usually a small lesson, some type of an activity and always good food and good visiting with each other. This week we had a speaker talking about the 7 goals our Bishopric has set for our ward for this year. She went through these goals, talked a little about the blessings and benefits of setting and reaching for these goals, then gave a quote, which goes something like this...............those who get to the end of their life with no firm goals in mind will look back and see many opportunites that have passed them by, they will have no accounting of what they have accomplished, they will miss much..... There is more before and after this part of the quote, these are not even the right words, but they are what I heard!
I have always, had goals and dreams, I have just never had the need to mark them as a goal! I have never had the need to broadcast to the world that I am doing something! So onto a change. This year I have been inspired...1 to be more like my friend...2 to be kinder....I have written these down and hopefully sometime I can look back and see that I accomplished these ambitions. I am still not using that yucky word....I am still a left shoe....and I am still okay that I am!!